As we approach a new decade, it is imperative we take care of our mental health as well as our physical health. Saying yes, all the time can put a real strain on your life because you are always either overextending yourself or you’re simply just doing things you really don’t want to do. It’s time to say no. Saying no doesn’t make you a bad or mean person. Saying no means, you care about yourself. Here’s 5 reasons why you should start saying no.
1. You Cannot Please Everyone
Although we would like to, it’s merely impossible to please everyone. So don’t try to! Sometimes pleasing yourself is really all that matters.
2. You Want to Create Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships
Imagine telling someone you cannot do something and they are completely understanding of this. And you leave feeling like you did the right thing. You also feel good about it and they still call you tomorrow to ask how your day went. But wait, there isn’t any weird energy about your decision. This is possible.
3. You Value Your Time
Let’s face it! Your time is just as important as theirs. Don’t sell yourself short. If you have a 5pm lunch with an old friend you cannot drop your brother off to work even if it’s own the way. This is YOUR time.
4. You Are Over-Extending Yourself
You said yes to your sister, your spouse, and your friend. Now where do YOU fit in? As cool as it would be we aren’t able to clone ourselves and be in more than one place at a time. Let’s prioritize and figure out what makes sense and get rid of whatever doesn’t!
5. You Do Not Want to Do It!
It could be as simple as that. Don’t force yourself. You do not have to do anything you do not want to do especially when you are not reaping any benefits.
We all know the thought of saying ‘No’ seems so harsh and selfish but what’s more selfish is not being able to do the things you want to do because you are in a constant place of saying ‘Yes’. Try it for a month and see how It makes you feel.